Recovering Worryalholic

This week, all kinds of exciting things have happened in both my personal and professional life. Finally, I feel like I’m “getting my ducks in a row”. I have worked hard, learn to trust others and let go of what I can’t control.

So, you ask, how does a life coach in Louisville, Kentucky change the way she thinks about today? All, I can say is it is a mindset, a way of disciplining your mind so your thoughts are positive and productive.
My dog Sophie needed leg surgery last week and being a recovering worryaholic, I knew the importance of finding the right Veterinarian to do the surgery. I looked for an office that would treat my dog with TLC and also be conscious of my need to know that everything was OK. I have lived in Louisville, all of my life and went to the vet that my mother used years ago.

She came through with flying colors and the vet even took her home with him overnight.

I’ve moved!

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Change is Up to YOU!

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Change Is Up To You

Your perceptions are the driving force of your life. If you perceive things to be difficult and defeating, then you will surely struggle, because you’ve created a negative expectation that will filter
out any positive opportunities. And if you perceive things to be working out perfectly and just the way you intended, you will find that you have more than enough energy to stay the course while enjoying the ride, because your positive expectation will filter out the negative stumbling clocks. There might be challenges, but you will overcome them, because you believe you can.

So what do you think about yourself? And what do you think about the world around you? If you’re not sure, think about what your current experience of life is. It will be an excellent clue.

Every choice you’ve ever made in life has brought you to where you are now. Just as every choice you make in the future will either keep you here or move you on. Because every choice and action is based on a thought, or a way of thinking. You can’t act without deciding to, whether consciously or unconsciously. It is how you think about yourself and your life that creates your reality.

And what if your reality is not what you ideally want? Then change it!

Everything that you do (or don’t do) is a choice.

Everything that you do (or don’t do) is a choice.

Given that, why would anyone ever choose to do anything they didn’t want to do?

Two reasons:
1. Do that thing in order to get or maintain something that they want.
2. How you think they’re supposed to be in the world

In other words, we do what we do (and don’t do what we don’t do) either because we want to, because we think it is a pre-requisite towards getting something else that we want (i.e. because we “have” to), or because we think it will make us into the kind of person we want to be (i.e. because we “should”).
The question ‘why?’ gets a bad name in some professional and personal circles because when it’s asked about anything that happened in the past, the answer is invariably a long story that could easily be edited down to the phrase “because it seemed like a good idea at the time”.

But when we ask the question in the present about what we are planning for the future, we quickly get an insight into our motivation.
If we hear a lot of ‘need to’, ‘have to’ and ‘musts’, we may have fallen into the trap of thinking there’s something we have to do to survive.

If there are lots of justifications and rationalizations, chances are we’re doing something because we think it will help us to reinforce our self-image, or be the kind of person we think we ’should’ be. But when the answer is some variation of ‘because I want to’, chances are that we are following our inner wisdom.

What Does Mom Really Want On Mother’s Day?

Mother and Son

Mother’s Day is this Sunday and card stores are busy, candy counters are packed, florists are getting calls and stores are selling gift cards.

No one really knows what to get mom on Mother’s Day. She is such a vital, important part of our lives, and nothing quite seems good enough to buy her on this special day.

So, what does Mom want for Mother’s Day? It is really very easy to figure out what your mom wants…watch her for a day and see what makes her smile, what means the most to her. Does she love candy, going to the movies, plants, pictures, when you make your bed, when you get along with your siblings, or when you simply spend time with her and show her how much she means to you?
I think we say I love you in a somewhat of a flippant way these days. Have the words “I love you” lost some of the special pizzazz? I was brought up with the notion that love is an action word. It’s about showing, doing, and being with that special Mom on Mother’s Day. Love is about putting other things aside and making your Mom a priority, not just one day of the year but everyday. The greatest way to love someone is to give them attention and be there with them in good times and bad.

I miss my children; they are all grown and live in various cities across the country. I am blessed to have such wonderful children and value the time we spend together. I love little reminders of them around my home. I keep cards up on the windowsill, I keep little notes they may have written years ago in drawers and pictures are everywhere.

This year for my birthday, they all pitched in and got me a plant of the month so I receive something from them every month. Don’t get me wrong; they call, email, and send cards… but I still miss them.

So, if you ask Mom, “What do you want for Mother’s Day” and undoubtedly she will want your time.